First, What is Zen?

From http://www.logoi.com/notes/whatis_zen.html, "Buddhism is a religion based around the teachings of the Buddha, or the Awakened One, who lived around 500 years before Christ. He taught that in life, suffering or dissatisfaction is inevitable. Suffering has causes, those causes can be cut off, and there is a way of life that will allow someone to do this. These are called the Four Noble Truths, and the way of life is the Eightfold Path: Right Views, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Attitude, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, and Right Concentration. Following the Eightfold Path, he taught, will lead to Nirvana, the "putting out of fires," and suffering will end."

OK. But what does this have to do with dating? Avoid suffering and dissatisfaction in the dating process, and dating Nirvana will be close at hand. Of course I exaggerate about Nirvana, yet the dating process should not be a painful experience. How? I don't know. What I do know is that we need to define the problem to find the solution.

Tomorrow, the problem defined.

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